There is a reason for the expression "the truth hurts".....

Dearest Blog,
  
I must say in life you cross issues and drama, and normally I try and keep my mouth shut at risk I don't know what I'm talking about and I may hurt more than help.  However, a friend of mine has been put in hot water by some of the soldiers in her husband's company, our company I should say, for a blog she wrote on females in the military and I feel compelled to be a voice.
  
As a female soldier I have come acoss some issues with spouses and do not get me wrong its not fun.  However,  never fully understood the other side of the world, the militray spouse world.  I never understood why wives had no jobs and seemingly did nothing, but complained about everything.  This perspective was all changed when I had to get out of the Army so my husband could follow his dreams of going to flight school and becoming an aviator. His dreams were met and mine got put on hold.  Thats what the life of a military spouse is all about. You fall in love with someone that happens to be a soldier and you give up your job and who you are to follow this soldier around the world, and that is alright, that is the choice we make to be with the one we love.  However, why are we treated like second class citizens?  Why are we looked as the outsiders?  We hold the house together when they up and leave, we keep all the appointments and when needed become the mother and the father.  We have given up our identities to be less than the number our soldiers are, and we do this without pay.  We cannot get jobs becuase no jobs are avaliable.  Brilliant minds, women with masters degrees working at the PX and the bolwling alley we do this because it is OUR duty. 

I want to be clear this is not a complaint, I along with all military spouses chose this life and would again to support our country and be with the one that I love, but this does not mean we have to lose our voice or ourselves. 

On the other side women in the military have more than a difficult job they are treated causiously by the men when they first enter a new company, they are hated by the wives becuase they work very closely with our hubands.  These women need to prove themselves as one of the guys and one of the girls, this task is near impossible.  So whose 'fault' is the divide?  Should the female soldiers or the wives try harder?  I think that the answer is both.  We all have things in life that leave a bad taste in our moth but that does not make it right to alienate others because if it.  And these  are the points that I think my friend was attempting to make.  She was looking at the facts from her point of veiw.  I stand by my friend and what she said stated nothing but the facts, the truth.  The bottom line is if you don't like the truth don't blame others, maybe you should look in the mirror and ask yourself WHY don't you like the truth? 

So moment of reflection...we both as spouses and female soldiers have a responsibility to make all feel comfortable and to all work together.  As women we are stronger together then sperated and we are all fighting for the same cause, equality and friendship.  Spouses, we need to understand female soldiers are fighting for our freedom like our husbands and as women we should all try to be better an extend a hand.  Female soldiers we need to understand that we work day in and day out with these husbands,  there will be moments when our lives are in eachothers hands and we will share something with these men that their wives will never be able to...respect that and sympathize with that fact.  If we all try and understand eachother this world, our military world will work much better.

Strawberry Fields Forever...

Dearest Blog,
   It has been some times now since I have written and I feel bad for that but being new at this blog thing I am still trying to find a balance of how much to write and how personal to get.  So that being said I will try to explain myself and my thoughts as much as possible, however if I offend anyone please feel to tell me these are just my thoughts but I do not mean to hurt anyone. 

So on a good note I have a strawberry!  This officially means that I have grown something!!  I am happy and I will share a photo and a short song to sum up my feelings about my new berry:

I have been in a small depression lately, I am not sure why or what has been going on.  I attribute this to having to no puropse right now.  School has been out  and am just awaiting for July 5th to arrive so I can head stateside for a month.  This may sound crazy but I feel like I work better with a deadline, under pressure if you will.  I feel like why get up and run today, I have all day to do it. ( this is said full knowing I won't.)  What is wrong with me?  People say enjoy your break...I just can't seem to do that. 

I will say I have been enjoying my Whiskey ladies.  Before all you people reading this outside of Germany, Whiskey is our company, not my depression beverage of choice.  I have been trying to get involved more in company activities and I will say they always seem to take my mind off of things.  I love these women and how they help without even knowing it.  They give of themselves and don't even realize they are going out of their way.  I have been blessed to know some of these amazing women here! (Don't get things twisted I really do miss my coffee girls from Rucker!  And my Hoho Nicole!)

In my bizzare depression I have been thinking a lot lately.  Reflecting on my life and what my future may hold, what I want my future to hold.  As my school days are quickly coming to an end I feel like am a high school student trying to figure out what's next.  I am starting the process of my OCS packet and I am very excited to get back into a career, not that school was not but I am so glad that I have almost achieved a goal that I never thought was possible for me. 

This brings me to my ever important serious reflection.  While running this morning with my Bella I never thought how much I do think while running.  While running Iisten to music, lately I have been thinking about Will.  It is strange how someone can have such an impact on your life in only a matter of a few years.  He has ment the world to Nathan, Devin, and myself.  He was the type of man that made people want to be a better person.  So my goal is to find something that I can do that will help people in the name of Will, a sort of pay it forwad if you will. (no pun intendedThis may take some time and much effort but that is alright, that is how he was.  No matter what the inconvinience he was always around, helping people.  I want him to be remembered for the impact he had, especially on me and my boys

Anywho, to leave on a happy note the Twilight Saga new trailor has been released, in case some peope have been living under a rock and could have missed this momentous occasion this is how I shall close! 

Now without further adieu I bring you the Breaking Dawn trailor....